Narcissism isn’t about taking selfies

The word narcissism crops up a lot in our selfie-obsessed, celebrity-driven culture, often to describe someone who seems excessively vain or in awe of themselves. Whilst this is certainly at one end of the spectrum and relatively harmless, at the other end lies disorder. 

In psychological terms, narcissism isn’t about self-love—at least not in the true sense of the meaning. People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) are in love with an idealized, grandiose image of themselves. At some point, probably in teenage years, they replaced their true-self with an ego state and gave way to any ability to love others. Instead they’re in love with this inflated self-image precisely because it allows them to avoid deep feelings of insecurity. But propping up their delusions of grandeur takes effort and that’s where the dysfunctional attitudes and behaviors come in.

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a complete lack of empathy (it’s said a Na